Approaching Modesty with Respect

Our Young Women president handled this so well this past week at Mutual, and I want to tell y'all about it.

The plan was to meet up at a local park and play water balloon volleyball. It involved tossing balloons with towels on a tennis court. Everyone showed up in street clothes, not bathing suits. Several older girls, including a visitor, came in the shortest of short shorts.

Our Young Women president wanted to say something about modesty to the girls, but wasn't sure if that setting was the best place. So she asked us advisors and her counselors in the presidency. It was discreet and out of earshot of any of the girls. 

Multiple leaders said no, that it was best not to do that with these particular girls. We're in a delicate situation with several of them, trying to help them attend more frequently and grow spiritually. They would not have handled the correction well. It likely would not result in a change in their behavior, except not to come back to church anymore.

She took that advice to heart and didn't say anything. We had a great activity and all the girls left more likely to return the next week.

I really appreciated her wisdom in pausing, asking for help and support from her presidency and leaders. It truly was a treasure to witness. I would definitely recommend that as an approach in the future.